Saturday, January 19, 2013

One Hundred Things My Mother Taught Me A Million Times - Chapter 97


#97 “Don't ever throw clothes away or give them away or sell them. Give them to your sisters.”
I saw this beautiful night photo of the Austin skyline on FaceBook and had to share.

There’s a bag of nice clothes sitting in the dinning room that I intend to take to my daughters-in-law, even though I know they probably won’t want the items in that bag. They are in their 30’s-40’s and I’m 65. They wear much smaller sizes then I.  They haven’t surrendered to elastic-waist pants yet. But mom’s #97 demands that I at least try.

My daughter has already gone through the items and picked out a couple of things, probably just to make me feel good. My sisters and I barely give a damn about clothes at this stage of our lives. There was a time, however, when my wardrobe was very important. A time when how I looked somewhat defined my capabilities and my standards. I was on that ladder to success, in heels. Figuring out how to look classy on a budget was a major focus.

One of the fun-est wardrobe/budget-stretching ideas I ever came up with was a “clothing swap” party. Most of my gal-friends were also on that ladder and pinching pennies to look professional. They bought high-end suits that were too expensive to give away, but they were tired of wearing the same three suits every week. So I invited them to bring their suits, purses, jewelry and shoes over to my house to do some high-end swapping. I served Champagne and snacks as each gal arranged her barter items in a small area. The first 30-40 minutes were spent just checking out each mini-boutique of offerings. Then, lubricated by bubbly, the negotiations began.

Some sold items for great prices, some swapped, and what was left over was donated to the Center for Battered Women. Everyone left with at least one “really good deal,” or something they truly loved. Lots of gals got to know each other better (negotiating tends to take conversations to a whole different level), and fun was had by all.

So mom was right, don’t throw away clothes, get your “sisters” together and give them the gift of new clothes and new friendships.

14 by Peter Clines


When main character, Nate finds a great apartment in Los Angeles for a ridiculously low monthly rent, he and I both should have known something screwy was going on. But to be fair, I bought 14 by Peter Clines (pictured below) fully aware that it was sci-fi.

Soon after moving in Nate meets his neighbors over beers on the rooftop terrace, and they began comparing notes about the many strange characteristics of their apartment building, like no electrical wires coming into the building, padlocked doors, weird floor plans and iridescent green cockroaches. As they bond (the tenants not the cockroaches) they form a sort of Scoobey Doo vigilante group to snoop around, and what starts out as an adventure, slowly (very slowly) turns dark.

Lamentably, the reader has to slog through some meaningless narrative to get to the fun stuff. Of course Clines was building tension, but there were a couple of annoying plot lines that lent nothing to the story, like Nate's boss repeatedly droning on and on about Nate's lack of productivity at work.   

And then there was the clichéd cast of characters. Nate, the endearing screw-up, his smarter than he girlfriend, the macho dude who knows way too many spy tactics, the bawl-baby woman, the wimpy guy who finds his strength in the end, etc.

My main complaint, however, is that 14 cruises along as a pretty good mystery, then crescendos to a laughable apocalyptic fantasy. As one reviewer observed, “You have to drink the Kool-Aid for this plot to work.” Another reviewer said he felt like the lemming at the bottom of the cliff, as did I, but then I have to give the author his due for keeping us on board in spite of a few dragging plot lines, predictable characters, and the comical antagonists.

Read it? Sure, 14 is a fun break from high-end literature. 

Saturday, January 12, 2013

One Hundred Things My Mother Taught Me A Million Times - Chapter 96


#96  “Don't let your sons push their sister around.  If you do, they'll treat their wives the same way.”

I stared at #96 for a long time, and I’m not sure why. OK, that’s a lie. I know why. I didn’t want to write about this lesson because this has been a difficult one for me my entire life.

By the time I came into the world, my parents were older and my siblings were grown and gone, so I had no role models for dealing with male/female aggression/submission. Then I was taught at church that women are subservient to men and a woman’s reward is not on earth but in heaven.  Between the religious dogma and the lack of role models, I allowed myself to be pushed around by my husband, and I allowed my sons to push their sister around.

When I was 28 I backlashed dramatically to become the woman who would never be pushed around again, plowing a 10-year swath through the male gender, showing them just how indomitable I was. I hated men and I hated myself. Thankfully, time and a patient husband helped me learn that it isn’t about dominance; it is about balance.

My children were probably damaged to a degree by my and their dad’s and society’s mistakes, but they also benefited from our triumphs and resilience, and from this they have learned that our lives are not measured by our mistakes, but rather by how well we learn from those mistakes and rise above them.

So mom was right. Don't let your sons push their sisters around. And I would add, don’t let your daughters be pushed around either.


BOOKS – 2012


BEST OF THE BEST
(Click on Book Titles to See My Review)
by Patti Smith

by Jess Walter

by Joshua Foer

by Gillian Flynn

by Andrew Soloman

BEST FICTION:
by Jess Walter

by Gillian Flynn

BEST NON-FICTION:
by Patti Smith

by Joshua Foer

by Andrew Soloman

FICTION YOU WILL ENJOY:
by Taylor Stevens

by Margot Livesey


by Paula McLain


by Hilary Mantel

by Louise Penny

NON-FICTION YOU WILL ENJOY:
by Susan Cain

by D. T. Max

by Charlena Chandler

by Cheryl Strayed

by Debra Weingarten

by James Andrew Miller, Tom Shales 

OK FICTION:
The Snowman 
by Jo Nesbø
The Hunger Games 
by Suzanne Collins
Defending Jacob 
by William Landay
The Tiger's Wife 
by Téa Obreht

OK NON-FICTION:
Manhunt 
by James L. Swanson

DON’T BOTHER FICTION:
The Night Circus 
by Erin Morganstern
The Odds: A Love Story 
by Stewart O’Nan
1Q84 
by Haruki Murakami
Christine Falls 
by Benjamin Black
And When She Was Good 
by Laura Lippman

DON’T BOTHER NON-FICTION:
Ghost In the Wires 
by Kevin Mitnick and William S. Simon

Sunday, January 6, 2013

HAPPY HOLIDAYS 2012!