Saturday, January 19, 2013
One Hundred Things My Mother Taught Me A Million Times - Chapter 97
#97 “Don't ever throw clothes away or give them away
or sell them. Give them to your sisters.”
I saw this
beautiful night photo of the Austin skyline on FaceBook and had to share.
There’s a bag of nice
clothes sitting in the dinning room that I intend to take to my daughters-in-law,
even though I know they probably won’t want the items in that bag. They are in
their 30’s-40’s and I’m 65. They wear much smaller sizes then I. They haven’t surrendered to elastic-waist pants yet. But
mom’s #97 demands that I at least try.
My daughter has already gone through the items and picked out a couple of things,
probably just to make me feel good. My
sisters and I barely give a
damn about clothes at this stage of our lives. There was a time, however,
when my wardrobe was very important. A time when how I looked somewhat defined
my capabilities and my standards. I was on that ladder to success, in heels. Figuring
out how to look classy on a budget was a major focus.
One of the fun-est wardrobe/budget-stretching ideas I
ever came up with was a “clothing swap” party. Most of my gal-friends were also
on that ladder and pinching pennies to look professional. They bought high-end
suits that were too expensive to give away, but they were tired of wearing the
same three suits every week. So I invited them to bring
their suits, purses, jewelry and shoes over to my house to do some high-end swapping. I served
Champagne and snacks as each gal arranged her barter items in a small area. The first 30-40 minutes were spent just checking out each mini-boutique of
offerings. Then, lubricated by bubbly, the negotiations began.
Some sold items for great
prices, some swapped, and what was left over was donated to the Center for
Battered Women. Everyone left with at least one “really good deal,” or
something they truly loved. Lots of gals got to know each other better
(negotiating tends to take conversations to a whole different level), and fun was had by all.
So mom was right, don’t
throw away clothes, get your “sisters” together and give them the gift of new
clothes and new friendships.
14 by Peter Clines
When main character, Nate finds a great apartment in Los
Angeles for a ridiculously low monthly rent, he and I both should have known something
screwy was going on. But to be fair, I bought 14 by Peter Clines (pictured below) fully aware that it was sci-fi.
Soon after moving in Nate meets his neighbors over beers on
the rooftop terrace, and they began comparing notes about the many strange
characteristics of their apartment building, like no electrical wires coming
into the building, padlocked doors, weird floor plans and iridescent green
cockroaches. As they bond (the tenants not the cockroaches) they form a sort of
Scoobey Doo vigilante group to snoop around, and what starts out as an
adventure, slowly (very slowly) turns dark. Lamentably, the reader has to slog through some meaningless narrative to get to the fun stuff. Of course Clines was building tension, but there were a couple of annoying plot lines that lent nothing to the story, like Nate's boss repeatedly droning on and on about Nate's lack of productivity at work.
And then there was the clichéd cast of characters. Nate, the
endearing screw-up, his smarter than he girlfriend, the macho dude who knows
way too many spy tactics, the bawl-baby woman, the wimpy guy who finds his
strength in the end, etc.
My main complaint, however, is that 14 cruises along as a pretty good mystery, then crescendos to a
laughable apocalyptic fantasy. As one reviewer observed, “You have to drink the
Kool-Aid for this plot to work.” Another reviewer said he felt like the lemming
at the bottom of the cliff, as did I, but then I have to give the author his
due for keeping us on board in spite of a few dragging plot lines, predictable
characters, and the comical antagonists.
Read it? Sure, 14 is a fun break from high-end
literature.
Saturday, January 12, 2013
One Hundred Things My Mother Taught Me A Million Times - Chapter 96
#96 “Don't let
your sons push their sister around. If
you do, they'll treat their wives the same way.”
I stared at #96 for a long
time, and I’m not sure why. OK, that’s a lie. I know why. I didn’t want to
write about this lesson because this has been a difficult one for me my entire
life.
By the time I came into the
world, my parents were older and my siblings were grown and gone, so I had no
role models for dealing with male/female aggression/submission. Then I was
taught at church that women are subservient to men and a woman’s reward is not
on earth but in heaven. Between the
religious dogma and the lack of role models, I allowed myself to be pushed
around by my husband, and I allowed my sons to push their sister around.
When I was 28 I backlashed
dramatically to become the woman who would never be pushed around again,
plowing a 10-year swath through the male gender, showing them just how
indomitable I was. I hated men and I hated myself. Thankfully, time and a
patient husband helped me learn that it isn’t about dominance; it is about
balance.
My children were probably
damaged to a degree by my and their dad’s and society’s mistakes, but they also
benefited from our triumphs and resilience, and from this they have learned
that our lives are not measured by our mistakes, but rather by how well we
learn from those mistakes and rise above them.
So mom was right. Don't let
your sons push their sisters around. And I would add, don’t let your daughters
be pushed around either.
BOOKS – 2012
(Click on Book Titles to See My Review)
by Patti
Smith
by
Jess Walter
by
Gillian Flynn
by
Andrew Soloman
BEST FICTION:
by
Jess Walter
by
Gillian Flynn
BEST NON-FICTION:
by Patti Smith
by Joshua Foer
by Andrew Soloman
FICTION YOU WILL ENJOY:
by
Taylor Stevens
by Margot Livesey
by Paula McLain
by Louise Penny
NON-FICTION YOU WILL ENJOY:
by Susan Cain
by D. T. Max
by Charlena Chandler
by Cheryl Strayed
by James Andrew Miller, Tom Shales
OK FICTION:
The Snowman
by Jo Nesbø
by Jo Nesbø
The Hunger Games
by Suzanne Collins
by Suzanne Collins
Defending Jacob
by William Landay
by William Landay
The Tiger's Wife
by Téa Obreht
by Téa Obreht
OK NON-FICTION:
The Secret Race:Inside the Hidden World of the Tour de France: Doping, Cover-ups, and Winning at All Costs
by Tyler Hamilton and Daniel Coyle
by Tyler Hamilton and Daniel Coyle
Manhunt
by James L. Swanson
by James L. Swanson
Every Love Story Is A Ghost Story
by D. T. Max
by D. T. Max
The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian
by Sherman Alexie
by Sherman Alexie
DON’T BOTHER FICTION:
The Night Circus
by Erin Morganstern
by Erin Morganstern
The Odds: A Love Story
by Stewart O’Nan
by Stewart O’Nan
1Q84
by Haruki Murakami
by Haruki Murakami
Christine Falls
by Benjamin Black
by Benjamin Black
And When She Was Good
by Laura Lippman
by Laura Lippman
DON’T BOTHER NON-FICTION:
Sunday, January 6, 2013
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